RESOLUTIONS: BOOM OR BUST?

By Andrea Pavee

Flower Ice Bucket with fresh flowers

Happy New Year everyone!

It is good to be back again, afresh into 2022. I hope Christmas and New Year’s celebrations were spectacular, wherever you rang it in.

As for us, we stayed put in KL. Pandemics tend to put a damper on celebratory travelling.

Tacking on to New Year’s celebrations is the “R” word, resolutions. While they may be commonplace, not everyone is happy to make them, present company included!

I learned about resolutions from Mummy, and I did my best, even back when I was a little girl to make, and keep them. And I did! The longest lasting one was 10 days, if memory serves.

However, I soldiered on and kept making, and then breaking them for years.

Living in South East Asia, a melting pot of religions, and cultures, we get to celebrate a new year every few months. With every called out greeting, those damped downed, almost forgotten resolutions tend to stir uneasily inside.

Experience comes with age and while I cannot say I am an expert in making, and keeping resolutions, I find these helpful ideas make the journey onwards easier, for those of you who struggle as I do.

Firstly, ephemerality, in the end, just fades away. Hence, resolutions, to be successful, have to be concrete.

To help me along, late last year I started Bullet Journaling (a coming attraction for another article!), and now I write my resolutions down.

And, those resolutions have to be specific.

My mistake was doing the opposite, which accounted to why they did not work. Most of my resolutions were vague and, to be honest, more of an afterthought than a concrete intention.

Now, I break them down to manageable proportions which makes them easier to fulfil.

Last year, I decided to go back to revisiting art as a hobby. Boy, was I rusty!

To work myself up to getting that resolution down pat, I mulled over it for some time then signed up for online classes. In chasing that dream, I learned that changing directions midway was perfectly fine in order to achieve my goal.

I whittled down my resolution by subscribing to the perfect online class and discipline (art covers a broad scope of disciplines e.g. sketching, watercolours, acrylic, and oil paints, just to name a few).

Today, I am working daily to hone my skills, accepting shortcomings and failures as a means to grow. Failure, after all,  is as much a part of growth as success is and sometimes, to get ahead, you need to step back.

Finally, I acknowledge that I am a work in progress and my resolutions build up character like the layers of an onion, seen only through the lens of time.

In constantly practicing, I am growing on the inside and at the same time, I am always on the lookout for ways to improve myself, remembering some fond advice from Nanie, my grandmother, who taught me that “you learn something new every day!”

In a few short weeks, the drumming paw beats of the Roaring Tiger will herald the start of the Chinese New Year. More chances for even more resolutions ahead!

Posted by Chayo, HomSkil Editor 1, 9 January 2022

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